Consider this— at a family get-together, you are enjoying a steaming hot tea when Nosy Aunty 1 interrupts with the dreaded question, “When are you getting married?” Before you can manufacture a choking incident to escape.
March 02, 2025
Kathmandu
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Consider this— at a family get-together, you are enjoying a steaming hot tea when Nosy Aunty 1 interrupts with the dreaded question, “When are you getting married?” Before you can manufacture a choking incident to escape, she’s already making accusations about biological clocks, social norms, and—of course—the infamous “What will the neighbours say?”
But why does everyone care so much about when you get married? Let’s examine the societal pressures, cultural theatrics, and the rational and occasionally comical justification for late marriage.
Gone are the days when people tied the knot as soon as they hit the legal age. Given the notable increase in the median age for first marriage in recent years, there has been a noticeable shift. Longer education, career goals, and shifting personal priorities are some of the factors driving this change, according to the Pew Research Center (2023).
Nevertheless, society often behaves as though it remains rooted in a bygone era. Some view this change as a sign of progress, while others view it as a catastrophe that needs to be addressed right away. Getting married late is like missing an important flight — though delayed, the journey becomes more meaningful, leading to a destination filled with everlasting happiness.
Let’s be real: in many Asian societies, marriage is not just your business—it’s the neighbourhood’s business. The aunties and uncles who cannot remember your last name still feel entitled to comment on your marital status.
Here are some classic examples worthy of the Neighborly Interference Hall of Fame:
Family dynamics expert Dr Sarah Thompson, a sociologist, attributes this interference to outdated social norms and an overly strong sense of civic obligation. Even with the best of intentions, this interference usually makes matters worse rather than better.
Let’s discuss the repercussions: According to research published in the Journal of Family Studies in 2024, persistently bringing up marriage can have detrimental psychological effects:
Isn’t anyone good enough for you? What exactly are you looking for? I’m exhausted from scouting boys left and right!”
(“Jasto bhaye pani hudaina,kasto chai khojeko ho”)
Ironically, those who advocate for “timely” weddings sometimes overlook the importance of readiness and compatibility.
The eternal question— “What will the neighbors say?”—is a societal anthem in many cultures. But here’s the truth: neighbors will always talk.
The answer? Give up caring. As a cheeky late marrier, I believe:
“I’d rather hear the neighbours talk about my achievements than my marital status.”
The ongoing social interference in marriage timing reflects a broader struggle between traditional values and evolving social norms.
This tension between traditional norms and changing reality is often apparent in quickly modernizing cultures, according to cultural anthropologist Dr Michael Chen (Cultural Evolution and Marriage Patterns in Modern Society,2023).
It is essential to realise that cultural advancement necessitates the adaptation of traditional ideals to contemporary circumstances rather than their complete rejection.
It is a choice, not a revolt, to get married later in life. It’s about meeting the right person, focusing on your personal growth, and committing yourself to a lasting relationship that suits you.
So, the next time someone asks, “When are you getting married?” smile, sip your tea, and reply,
Trust us, that’ll leave them speechless!
Because whether you say “I do” at 25, 35, or never, the only timeline that matters are your own.
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